Essay for ‘They’re All So Beautiful’, an online forum for Debbie Lum’s documentary ‘Seeking Asian Female
This was originally published in 2013, but the website has since been left to expire and fade away into the digital nothingness… I was recently asked about my Mongolian love story by a filmmaker coming to Mongolia to document stories about love. I figured it would be handy to have a link to share again.
I wasn’t particularly good at dating. I don’t think I got enough practical training with pretend boyfriends in grade school. I can’t even remember my first date. I took on my first domestic partnership at 20. I moved from Memphis to Minneapolis, and spent two years playing house. Within a year I was shacked up with a new guy, and we played house for about seven years. I thought it was the closest I’d ever get to marriage. We moved cross-country together, got a second dog together, had a joint auto insurance policy, bought a house together, and fought a lot. It seemed like marriage...